Ummmm....

[clintswan]

i was myself.

i had a benedryl on board cuz the mountain cedar and pine(xmas)trees...

i was unimpressive.

or at least he didn't answer or respond to my voicemail after the 1.5 hour event.

yeah i am a loser

*sigh*

this is why i don't like dating

Comments

[aadroma.livejournal.com]

Give him time to respond.

And if he doesn't? His loss.

(HUG)

loser?

[bostas.livejournal.com]

You aren't the loser buddy...he is if he hasnt got the balls to reply to your call.
I'd call you back! :)

[lfkbear.livejournal.com]

Dating does, indeed, suck.

But do not carry the burden for a date that might not have gone perfectly. It takes two for things to go well... or not so well.

Breathe. Mr. Right is out there. He is.

HUGS

Almost everything I know about dating

[vernnyc.livejournal.com]

What about him?
Did you enjoy your time with him?
Did he seem to be enjoying?
How did you part?
etc.

You don't need to give a play by play, but I think your post focuses too much on what you did or did not do. It takes two to tango as they say, so what about the other guy? Did you like him enough that you should be waiting with bated breath for him to call you back? If so great ... but let's breathe a little and give him time.

If you both seem to be enjoying the date you can always use the parting as a litmus test. If you really would like to see the guy again. Tell him! "Hey, I had a great time, and I'd like to go out with you again" or ask him out again at some point in the future "I had a great time last week, and there's a movie out that I want to see ... want to come?"

There is always that chance that you find that it's not working for you, or that one person 'made a connection' and the other did not. Also, sometimes one person's idea of a date is not the other persons idea (I know some men who think all dates must end in sex) Communication continues to be key, but people have a hard time delivering "bad news" (I know I do). Some times this is manifested in the person not getting back to you, but give the fellow the benefit of the doubt. If you've called him give him at least a few days to get back to you. Sometimes people are genuinely busy.

But if it turns out that you're not what he's looking for, don't take it personally. It's much easier to say this than to do this, but remember that everyone is looking for something. Sometimes we don't find it in the other person. But that does not make the other person bad ... some of my best activity friends are people who I've gone on a date with, but we did not click romantically.

So give the guy some time. If it turns into a second date then great. If not, it may still be great.

*****HUGS*****

[leswozere.livejournal.com]

All men are bastards, if they didn't have dicks we'd throw rocks at them. Not returning a call is just plain rude and it don't make you no loser mate.

[kybearfuzz.livejournal.com]

Dating is a pain! Trust me, I'm there with you. I would definitely say that you are NOT "unimpressive." From some of the things you write in your journal from time to time, I would say you are a very important, very impressive person. So, buck up, SuperBear, rip open your shirt and show us that big hairy "S" on your chest ;D

[gaugetx.livejournal.com]

Your no loser. THat's his title if he does not get back to you. His loss. Mr Right is looking for you. That I'm sure of.

[xanaducub.livejournal.com]

You gotta lighten up. If he isn't the one, move on to the next.

[clauditorium.livejournal.com]

You're taking the "be your own worst critic" thing too far. You can't know what someone else is thinking unless they tell you.

[hylandr.livejournal.com]

*huggles* Maybe he's just not good enough for you.

[beardoc.livejournal.com]

Have you ever dated anyone in healthcare? Sometimes I think they're the only ones that know what it's like.

uholy just like you

[moofedct.livejournal.com]

It's okay Clint - I go through the same thing, just without the dates.

In the same boat

[ex-thehoss277.livejournal.com]

Clint

Sweetie, don't feel bad. I have gotten stood up, no calls back, no one seems to care, etc all the time. You're not a LOOSER! Damn you, you need get out of Dallas, TX and come here to Atlanta. I would call you back in a heartbeat! You're adoraable.

Snuggle hug,
Wes

Re: In the same boat

[moofedct.livejournal.com]

Atlanta's nice, but it's still bible belt territory.

Come out to California. We're just a bunch of weirdos, but we're pretty nice. :)