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[clintswan]

went to an a-list bear/muscle bear birthday party

wow, was i left out.

knew enough guys to keep me from crying(laughing)

40 lbs need to be lost - the everyman and the a-list man takes note

damn carbs

Comments

[rictus125.livejournal.com]

Only lose the weight if you want to for yourself, not to get into some stuck up A-list party.

[five0xpres.livejournal.com]

Sweetie, not everyone has the perfect body. Even those who go to the gym are chasing an ideal and sometimes dedicating all their free time to follow that dream of the "perfect body". Be comfortable with who you are, be it chunky, thin, tall, short, whatever.

You look totally hot in all the pics of seen of you. Someone that I would love to cuddle up with on the sofa to watch some TV or just to take a quick nap.

But remember, first...be you, not what you think the a-list wants you to be.

[mikiedoggie.livejournal.com]

Hello there, first time I've posted to your journal.

I was just joking with someone yesterday about A-list bears and their evil ways. Don't be an "A-list" bear! Be the person you are comfortable being!

Heck, I'm not even a bear and I've felt extremely awkward around "A-list" sort of events. Makes me feel like I'm back in high school and being dissed by the popular kids... [laughs]

[mathan.livejournal.com]

Clint, just be yourself - be you, because when the real you shines through, it's like a bright beacon that says, "I AM CLINT!" When you get into the space of being so down on yourself, you extinguish that light.

Stop listening to all the negative things that your mind is saying, and listen to what the real you is saying, and what others have been saying about you for years - that you're a fine, good looking man.

*HUGS*

[x10.livejournal.com]

Looks like most of what needs to be said, has been, handsome. Remember though, the A in A-List usually stands for Assholes. Heh.

UH HUH!

[darkphuque.livejournal.com]

You said it all...
and...thanks for saying it!

[aadroma.livejournal.com]

And you want to deal with the snobbishness of A-list bears because ...?

Honey, you're fine the way you are. If you want to lose weight, lose it because you want to, NOT because you see it as a key to fitting in with the equivalent to the high-tier cheerleaders in high school.

[stereobare.livejournal.com]

Make your own "A-list", but don't invite the other list of bears/people/adonnis's (is that what the letter A stands for? Adonnis?)

[fuzzbearmark.livejournal.com]

I have learned that I DON'T WANT TO BE an "A-List Bear".
Most of them are shallow stupid people. I would rather
cherish who I am and find others who are Great Guys without
being part of any "in-crowd".

Be true to yourself - change if your heart tells you to do so,
but do not lose sight of Who You Are. *Hugs*

[xkot.livejournal.com]

You're a beautiful guy exactly as you are. If you want to lose weight for your own reasons, that's fine. But don't think that there is anything wrong with the way you are right now.

[jacked01.livejournal.com]

Clint WFT?!? you DO NOT judge yourself by what you see there. You are unique and being happy with yourself first is what is going to bring you out into the A list. you have to be A list in your own mind first losing weight or any other changes is not going to do a damn thing.

[dfwteddybear.livejournal.com]

Clint, honey, F*CK THEM! You are an A-list bear to the people that matter most, US, your friends. This is Dallas, and we all know how this city can be. It's about how you look and what you wear, even who you date and what you eat comes under scrutiny. Just be yourself, and let the people that matter accept you for you.
*HUGZ*

How were you left out?

[mondragon.livejournal.com]

I have several long-term friends who have changed, over the years, into sort of uber-muscle-bears, at least to hear it from the people who don't know them and who don't talk to them. I also hear about how much attitude they have, and how they insult people who hit on them (by not agreeding to have sex with them, basically.) I also know them to be smart, fun, generous, but often extremely shy people.

So some questions:
- who defined them as being "a-list"? Did any of them use that term in any seriousness?
- do you think that you were more reticent than usual because you were intimidated?
- did anyone comment on your weight in an unfavorable comparison to other people there?

Basically, how much of this was real and how much was in your head?

Re: How were you left out?

[clintswan.livejournal.com]

answers to questions

- I defined them as such because of the tight clique of "friends"
- I wasn't intimidated, just my normal reticent : I did notice when I spoke the persons int eh group had "that look" of "who the fuck is this turkey?"
- no comment about the weight but several comments about healthy bodies when i ate something

I bet quite a bit of this was in my head - but then again - that's where mind games are played

A long ramble

[madhugger.livejournal.com]

One being within a certain circle that others called A-listers, I get what you are saying. Many are polite, funny, generous and kind - to others like them. I also found that these guys had no clue as to how this whole Bear thing started and what it means to guys who sometimes don't fit in to certain circles to have a circle of their own to find comfort in.

Like others here have said.. BE YOURSELF! That will attract more genuine people than trying to be an image that others project. I am all for taking the steps to become healthier so you can live a longer life & share it with those people you care for. If that means losing weight, then do so sensibly with a proper diet and exercise routine.

You seem like a great guy and if you were in my neck of the woods I'd love to hang out with ya!

[xanaducub.livejournal.com]

I think you are just dandy the way you are. I'd be all about you at a party.

[eireangus.livejournal.com]

How about coming to my "Z" list party? It's a heck of a lot more fun. Plus, we BBQ up the A-list bears, their fake muscles taste yummy with A1. :-)

[mountdfw.livejournal.com]

dayum. If you're not A-list.. then I'm like.. C- or D-list.

Seriously, man... screw the A-list barbiebears. If *you* think you need to lose weight, go for it. But don't lose toooo much, because I always thought you were so very sexy just as you are.

[clauditorium.livejournal.com]

Clint, do you know what "a-list bear" means? It means "attitude bear". Lose the weight if it'll make you feel better, but PLEASE don't do it to impress those muscle queens.